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it was not just a fast but something that had yet a deeper meaning. Like many
other married women, I too had undertaken the Karva Chauth vrat (fast) to pray
for seeking the longevity, prosperity and well being of my husband and to seek
blessings for a happy married life.
started early in the morning, before sunrise, I woke up to have
my sargi (a festive meal) given by my mother-in law. I was very
conscious that I should not eat anything or drink water on this day. Observing
a strict fast and abstaining from food and water for the entire day is tough,
but my love for him kept me going. Yes, I love him, ‘my husband’ – it is a kind
of unsaid love. We have had an arranged marriage, it has been only a month
since then, so it is taking us a bit of time to get to know each other and
discover more about each other. But as
far as I have known him, I am already in love with him, for the kind of person
he is. He has become a 'soulmate' now.
Karva Chauth is very popular among youngsters too, who fast for their partners
or simply fast to please God for a good life partner! Never mind the cacophony
that some feminists create over this “chauvinistic” tradition; but fasting
after you are married is a romantic occasion, I believe. This event reflects
joy, splendor, brightness and happiness of a married life. There is
something romantic in fasting for the man I love! I’m too filmy, I know.
my first Karva Chauth after my marriage. So obviously, it is an occasion to
indulge in a lot of fun and frolic. So here I’m all decked up, like a newly-wed
bride, having used up all the sola (16) shringaar items, wearing a bright red
saree (well, red defines marriage) with a beautiful necklace that my sasu-ma
gifted me this morning. Feeling absolutely bridal, I’m flaunting the things
that symbolize and reflect the marital status of a woman – the exquisite henna
designs on my hands, sindoor (vermillion) on my forehead, Mangalsutra, Bindi
and colorful bangles.
evening, we sat in a circle, with my sasu-ma narrating vrat kathas (stories)
and chanting prayers. Around 8.30pm, it was time for the puja. The puja thalis
were all set. We were all waiting desperately for the moon to show its glimpse.
So, it was all about the moon and the men! I lit the karva (earthen lamp) in my
thali. I saw both the moon and my husband through a sieve and performed the aarti.
He offered me the first morsel to break the fast.
fed me, Viraj said, “So, Patni won’t you feed me back?!” Surprised, I
said, “Sure.” That’s when he revealed that he was fasting too. It was his
expression of love and care for me. That was the moment I discovered his love
for me. Love needs no words, for actions are enough to show that you care. I
asked him back, “But, this was not needed Viraj.” He replied back, “Why not? If
you can fast for my well-being, then why can’t I too, for my wife’s well being?”
Well, I couldn’t say anything more. All I managed to utter was, “Thank you.
That’s so sweet of you.”
A while later, after all the pujas were done, Viraj came over and secretly
asked if I could go on a drive with him. We took everyone’s permission and went
for the drive - that's when he presented me with my first romantic gift ever -
a solitaire platinum diamond pendant necklace. The jewelry box had a note kept
which read, “Chehre pe hasi chha jati hai, Aankhon main suroor aa jata hai, Jab
tum mujhe apna kehti ho, Apne pe guroor aa jaata hai!” He left me speechless.
It was very romantic and emotional for me at the same time.
said, “I love you, Aaradhya. I often may get occupied with my duties and
responsibilities, but now after having this pendant you will know, I love you
always. You know, in the hierarchy of metals, platinum is the most precious and
30 times more rare than gold! To signify and celebrate the highest level
of our relationship, our marriage, something this pure is needed, something so
durable that stands the testimony of time! I want you to wear this everyday for
the rest of your life, so that our love and bond never fades or tarnishes.”
loved him. He loved me too. But we never said that aloud to each other. But
marriage is such a bond that romance has to abound in it! Not being able to
contain my happiness, I told him, “I love you more than my life, Viraj and I pray
to God that I leave this world in your arms. I am proud to be Mrs Aaradhya
Viraj Sharma. Thank you for being mine! We are forever. This pendant will be
the most coveted piece of jewelry I will ever possess. It is so pretty and
dazzling white!” I gave him a quick peck on his cheek and hugged him tightly
and snuggled up like a small child.
Chauth gave me an opportunity to spend some quality time with my husband –
rather rare given our frenetic work lives. Marriage is a joyous decision of
staying together - a decision destined to change our lives forever. It is the
foundation for a lifetime of everlasting love and romance.
husband is more than just a life partner. He becomes my protector when I’m in
trouble. He respects me, comforts me and cares for my happiness. This bond I
share with him is such a sacrosanct
one. We now realize the importance of each other in our lives. This day has become
a symbol of our unflagging loyalty and love for each other - the kind of love
that begins and never ends. It’s the day we achieved a deeper, more enriching
and personal satisfaction out of being in love. The realization of this rare
moment is my ‘Platinum Day of Love’ with my 'soulmate'!
kept the love experienced between the two of us budding and has brought us
closer. Such days are never planned. This has been the day that made me
experience immense satisfaction of being with my better half. Indeed, unsaid
words are useless, unless you utter them. Viraj and Aaradhya are meant to be.
And there is nobody else I would want to spend the rest of my life with, apart
can't believe that I have ended up with such a sweet husband. I am blessed to
have him. Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. It's a commitment for
life. And I am glad that I will share my life with not just my husband but also my best friend, the love of my life. I am proud to say that I love
this man, and I am truly loved back by this man, hamesha and forever. I feel soulmates are not necessarily life mates; but your life mate surely becomes your 'soulmate' because marriage is powerful!
group of friends visited their old university professor.
Conversations soon turned into
complaints about growing 'STRESS' and 'TENSION' in life.
The professor offered them coffee. A while later he returned with coffee in
different kinds of cups (glass cups, crystal cups, shining ones, some plain
looking, some ordinary and some expensive ones.)
all of them had a cup in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all
the nice looking & expensive cups are taken up, leaving-behind the ordinary
ones. This is where the problem lies. Every one of you wanted the best CUP,
& that is the source of your STRESS & TENSION. What you really wanted
was "coffee" and not the "cup"! But everyone still went for
the best cup.”
He continued, “Friends, life is
like coffee; jobs, money, status, etc are the cups. They are just TOOLS to hold
and contain life. Don't let the CUPS drive you. Enjoy the COFFEE!
Sometimes, isolation from competition and being remote from the rat race
teaches us some valuable lessons in life. Solitude gives you the privacy to be
physically alone for some time with your thoughts. What we lack is people with
vision. We lack thinkers - people who can think for themselves and formulate
He continued, "Solitude, my dear friends allows us to concentrate on who
we are and what we really want. It is a long, uninterrupted talk with oneself.
It helps us to gather ourselves and focus. In solitude we ask ourselves - 'Am I really happy?' You know your
secrets the best. It is okay to have doubts. Self introspection helps in
finding oneself. Truly speaking, all of us are lonely in this competitive
world, at such times what we really have is our own self! It is okay to be alone, but not okay to be lonely. Solitude is the best society,
What I mean to say is, “Girls, don't
be unworthy and don't take the unworthy.”
We need to teach our daughters
to know the difference between a man who flatters her, compliments her and the
man who spends money on her, who invests in her.
The difference between a man
who views her as a property and a man who views her properly, a man who lusts
after her and a man who loves her, a man who believes she is a gift to him.
And most importantly, we need
to teach our sons to be that kind of a man!!
Most of the relationship
problems arise when we undervalue ourselves and consider the wrong kind of
attention to be right. Maybe because it feeds our ego or it validates our fear
of not being good enough.
Some men revel in egotism and
dominate their partners. If they don't feel their partners are good enough and
not valuable enough, why are they with them? They are equally stupid for making
If you don't believe you are
worthy, no one else will, girls. Don’t let your fears and insecurities
override your self-respect. Believe that you matter! ‘Coz you do! Because you
are worth the best!
We all experience the aching
emotion of feeling wronged by life, when our suffering seems unjustified and
others seem to live a perfect life. And you wonder, why me?
We all invariably experience setbacks. We question the fairness of life on losing
a promotion or a disturbed relationship, or on suffering a chronic
illness. We are all sometime or the other crippled by thoughts of self doubt,
self blare and self pity.
Overcome such despair by -
Thank God for all that you have, because you never questioned God 'Why Me?'
when HE blessed you with all the good things. In a moment of despair, we quickly
blame God and take our blessings for granted.
Don't take it personally. Every pain is an integral part of life's evolution.
Believe that whatever is manifesting is for our highest good. Learn lessons
instead of being judgmental.
Kill the fear:
The fear that whatever is going to happen will scar us forever,
is what paralyses us. Take it as an experience. The wound is the place where
the light enters you.
Fight that ‘Why Me?’ feeling with positivity! Keep negative
emotions at bay.
Attraction leads to romance. When Shah Rukh Khan is attracted
to his heroine he sings songs, doesn’t rape her!
So what leads to rape? DESPERATION leads to rape.
Every girl has a right to dress up as she wishes. So
don't place it on the length of her clothes. Even if you leave a scantily
dressed lady minister at night on the road, nothing will happen to her.
Because the consequences of such acts done to a minister are known. But when it
comes to normal girls, the rapists know, they can get away with it
easily. So it is not lack of clothes on a girl’s body, but lack of
consequences. The laws of this country are not so apt and stringent.
The length of clothes on her body is not a
measure of her character. And the height of audacity?! The questions are fired
on the girl herself after rape.
Why was she alone? Why was she do scantily dressed? Why
was she drunk?
However she is, that doesn't give anyone a license to rape
The police say she wanted something to happen,
so she was out so late! So, tell me, why were the men forcing her, if she herself
wanted things to happen? Was it like the girl meant 'Hey boy, do you want to
come up on me?’ And the guy said 'Run!'?
We often blame it on the western culture?
Which western culture? The same that has given us IVF, birth control techniques, or
electricity and bulbs? Because of which we can leave our homes even when it is
Being biased to a particular culture is plain hypocrisy,
according to me.What leads to
rape is the dirty mindset of a few desperate men, and nothing else.
If at all it was limited to only girls wearing short clothes
or being drunk, but then what about these nasty men not refraining from raping
even 4 year olds???