Friday, 6 May 2016

Nano Fiction 35 : Eccedentesiast

A popular fallacy of some mother-in-laws is - that a girl comes with a solo purpose in her mind, post marriage - to snatch away her son!

A girl entering a new house, has so many fears in her mind, but what people just conclude is, she wants to snatch away our son/brother from us.

Insecure people are always worried if they are loved or not and hence end up asking comparative "Who do you love more" type questions! 

Is it because they are possessive of their sons/brothers and cannot learn to let go or share? Is it the culture of interference that makes these women think they have a right to stick their noses in business that does not directly affect them?

Eventually, it is the men who do not feel slightly embarrassed about all this. Most do nothing to resolve these conflicts, their way of dealing with it is to ignore it.

Not all mother in laws can be portrayed as intrusive, unfair and notoriously adamant. But, a few, yes, they are over obsessive about their sons; with over-oozing motherly instincts! Many a times, which causes a harm to their own sons and changes their lives for the bad.

I cannot somehow buy the argument that - 'A woman's worst enemy is another woman.' We need to empower and lift each other up; and not put each other down. We need to stop being catty and vindictive against each other. 

I wonder why people are so. Each one has his/her own place in someone's life, which is irreplaceable. No one can be a substitute for the other. Each one is loved exactly in the manner they deserve to be loved.

Yet, people have to give up on the person they love, because the love they share becomes an inferiority complex to their loved ones and they become an eccedentesiast.

Eccedentesiast is someone who fakes a smile. Someone who hides behind a smile, when all they want to do is hide and/or die.

We live in a world, where people are of two types: 1. They cry their hearts out when they are unhappy, and 2. We are even surrounded by people who cannot even cry enough to relieve themselves of a pain. They beam to everyone at work and around, being an eccedentesiast about that matter, like it doesn't affect them. When in reality, it kills them.

I wish, we didn't live in an unfortunate world like this.


  1. So true and absolutely agree with you! The world would be a better place if we think and act on this.


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