Sunday, 7 May 2017
Nano Fiction 53 : When People You Love Turn Cold
Some people can be so affectionate which seems so genuine and then suddenly go cold. Or, you may have begun a romantic relationship that started out promising, but over time compelled you to confront the fact that the other person really wasn't letting you in. Despite all your attempts to "grow" the connection, to make it more mutual and heartfelt, he or she seemed to prefer that it remain as it began--uncommitted, relatively superficial, and impersonal. Any natural progression toward greater emotional intimacy simply wasn't happening. And your trying to cultivate more patience, to cut the other person more slack, or make allowances for their perhaps having an especially "private" nature, ultimately didn't seem to make any difference in your feeling uncomfortably removed from them.
Detached, seemingly preoccupied, and not at all open or friendly, they seemed to hold you at a distance. And if you tried to say something to ease the situation, their response (though not exactly inappropriate) pretty much nullified your efforts. If you take a lot of efforts, you might seem pushy to such people. They cannot cope with the love you have to give them. It is a losing battle you fight.
Nothing can save such people. They hate being answerable, responsible. They are too selfish, become narcissistic or already too hurt. They don't have anything to give to anybody. They don't realize the hurt they cause.
Their no reply is a also a reply.